Vijay Tv is hosting this new show called ” Ini Oru Vidhi Seivom”. This show talks about Women rights and what are all the things which are faced by women today(Both good as well as bad).
Today’s topic was about you can prevent Divorce rates or something of that sort( I started watching it from the middle…Sorry).
This started off by saying how the women are trying to put up a lot of ego problems and don’t have any sagipu thanmai. and one annoying lady also said that we, girls, these days are not brought up to share and adjust to things. We put our egos in front of us before we think about the marriage.
Another lady who was offended by this statement quoted that she personally knew a girl who was married to this guy who was impotent( meaning not being able to reproduce) knew that he was before he got married. When she lived with for almost 2 years and then told her parents about him who was also sexually abusive. She tolerated all this just for the sake of not getting a divorce and trying to live along with him, but there was a limit to everything because he had become more aggressive one day. So she left him even though the parents were reluctant. But now she got the divorce and became a doctor who is quite successful in her career, but doesn’t want to marry again.
I was so touched by this story. Do you know there are 1000 of women who have such kind of husbands who are impotent and another set of women who are sexually harassed or abused by their husbands. If they try to get out of this situation and get divorced, the society says that she has got ego and doesn’t want to tolerate and live. How can any women live like that? Even though, we are being so successful in fulfilling the dreams of the nation and building the economy and developing, still women are not given the rights that they deserve. I personally know a friend, who had similar kind of situation which she also came out of it, but she also tried to make the marriage work because he always was loving to her except for the fact he was being aggressive and abusive as time went by. The family did not accept her back. She still lives and proves that she is worthy of living and she has overcome the depression and on her feet to live her life the way she wants it to be. I salute to these kind of women. This is not called as ego or self esteem or selfishness. This is called as protecting ourselves and living our life. These women do not want to get married again for the mere fact that they do not want to get hurt again because the pain and agony was too much to tolerate