>Talking about divorce…

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The hottest topic of the day being love and love marriages. I was quite curious to find out how many people in my class are really into love and love marriages since we were discussing about it. As usual the guys were all joking about it by saying that they would get married to a girl and then divorce her within in the next three months and then get going with another girl. Then this thing struck me, let me check about the divorce rates in India.Here is something I felt about it.

Marriages in different parts of the world are done differently.In olden days, tribal men kidnap girls from other tribes to marry them. In the western world, as we know it, they have the right to “choose” the person they prefer on the basis of love. In India, a common practices was arranged marriage. It is said that the divorce rate have a direct impact on the level of choosing their own spouse.i.e. Love marriages. And according the research, it is happened only in the recent times.

If you see the picture below, you will find that India, compared to all the other countries has the lowest divorce rate but is increasing certainly at a very high speed during the past decade.divorcerate1_1_1 Divorcerate2_2_1

Even though India still enjoys a low divorce rate, the rapid increase in the number of divorce petitions being filed in Indian courts is certainly a matter of concern. The Indian divorce rate is although the lowest in compared to the rest of the countries of the world, but the present marital scenario in India is likely under a threat. The very will to keep on with the sacred union even under numerous marital disputes and disparities has mellowed with time and transformation of ideologies.

And if you trace out the reasons for these divorces, you will find that the blame has been placed on the women empowerment, the literacy rate and the financial independency.

  • Lets look at the reasons for the increasing rate of divorces in India:
  • 1. Earlier when the women divorced she was faced with social criticisms. They believed that the parents would not accept them and think of them as a burden. But times are changing now. The parents feel and understood the fact that it is not the end of the daughter’s life if she was divorced.
  • 2. Due to factors such as Globalization and IT boom, the social life has become faster. The couples aren’t spending enough times with each other and also in this fast paced world nobody is bothered about social ill- effects or rather not effect the glare of the society.
  • 3. With the advent of women education, they are not anymore depend on the men for their financial needs. Therefore, she doesn’t have to anymore stand the abuse and harass made by the men. She can get out of it and get on with her life on her own or as well as the kids, if any.
  • But are these the only reason why we are moving into the different
  • pace, and don’t you think that the above mentioned reasons are fair
  • enough and logical for the betterment of the better half, WOMEN.
  • PS: I am not being bias here. I still believe that there are some real men who take care of their wives as if they were Queen and Hats off to you all.. This post is dedicated to my dad because he belongs to that category.
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Roll No:16 Pradap Kumar: He is like this big boy of class. He remodels bikes and cars and loves it. He changed his pulsar into something totally crazy and funky which looks gr8 to me atleast. He is one of those hostel guys and comes to college once or twice a week. Most of the time, these guys are boozed or sleeping! Every night is PARTY night there. I kinda feel jealous about it. Pradap is from kovai and is very proud about it. He looks silent and quite but in reality, he is a terror. He once lost his phone and was very upset about it because he had that phone for more than 3 years. Some sort of girl friend sentiment, I guess. Lol. Rowdy Pradap

Roll No:17 Shiva: Ah… Shiva. He is like this one crazy guy whose leg is pulled by all the guys and girls in class. He comes up with some of the mokkaiest of statements in the history of mokkais. The best part is that he never is afraid about anybody. He lives in hostel too. The only guy, who doesn’t drink or smoke among them. He is honest, sincere and very passionate about this course. He is a sweet heart. I talk a lot to him and we help a lot during exams and studies and stuff. One guy who liked my blog and wanted to start one for himself after seeing mine.(:P). Shiva, you are the one of the craziest friend I ever had and will always be there.. Thanks again for your friendship.

Roll No:18 Marudhu Pandian: Future Finance Minister!!! Well, may be, you never know. Actually, his father is a hard core politician so since Marudhu has done Finance, he would want to be the next FM. And also he is planning to start up a new institute for MBA called MIPM(Marudhu’s Institute of Planning and Management). He is a macho man!! Looks like a army guy and but not so rough n tough. He was in love with a girl but they broke up, but he still loves her. He called himself “ BIG BABY” Hope you understand what it mean.. Still a baby in a grown body.

Roll No: 19 Ajith Bohra: He is a male chauvinist. He acts as if girls are meant to be under his feet. I really don’t care about what he thinks and perceives about girls and if he is such a thing, I don’t give a damn about it either. You hardly see him in class. Doesn’t really respect girls and also thinks that we are meant for only carrying babies and cook for men. Such kinda guys are just not worth talking about.

Roll No: 20 Neelam : She is a short girl. Very cute and loves to wear long tops. She is engaged already. Can’t wait to get married next year. Whenever she does presentation, its hard to see her stand because the podium is bigger than her, so she gets teased a lot by the guys for that but still doesn’t care about it. She does all her on time and is good at studies. She is a doll and pretty cool to have her as a friend.. You can count on her and she is always ready to help you whenever needed.

>The tribute continues..

>Roll No:7 Fadil: Referred as fidil or lots of others things which I dont want to mention. Thats because I said no bias. lol. Fadil is a great guy!! He is quite and sweet. He is sort of like a loner in class. Nobody pays attention to him but that guy has some serious thought process and knows what he does. He gets irritated by most of my classmates but don’t really care about it. The attitude I like in him. I think he should be more attentive and more punctual in class( who talking about that!!)
Roll No 8 and 9 have also left class and joined the other section.
Roll No: 10 Hariharan Nothing much to write.. I don’t know what to say…
Roll No:11 left the building. Its stupid this college doesn’t remove them and replace the roll numbers below…
Roll No:12 Jagdev Small boy. hardly seen in class or college. appears once in a while like the rains in Chennai. Nothing much to say but he has a lot of talent at that very young age..
Roll No:13 Jayesh According to me, he is the only one who is and acts like an MBA in class. Jayesh is well composed and good in things that he does. He is like this only intelligent guy in class who asks sensible questions which are accepted by the faculty. He is a hard core banker and atleast knows where he wants to be in his life( unlike like others with no sense of responsibility). Good guy, easy-going and I love your smile. So keep smiling which is the best thing about you!! 🙂
Roll no:14: left the building!!
Roll No: 15 Mukesh : He never attends class except for test so nothing much about him from my side, may be the guys would know something!!!

>A Tribute to Fall-winter 2008-10/Finance-2 IIPM,Chennai

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This is about my class the one which I’ve studied and changed for just to be with them. This is going to the last few more months that we will all be seeing each other and after that, god knows where we will be. I love my class and I’m very proud of each and everybody, no matter what. It is said the post grads students are more mature and know how to behave and are responsible but my class.(PGP/fw0810/f2) has the worst of records for being the worst Post Graduation Class in the history of IIPM. We are so naughty, arrogant, always getting into trouble, thinking out of the box, we never study, copy in exams, play most of the time. Our presentations are the worst sometimes but also the best most of the time. 1st semester in the history, we had 40 arrears in marketing which never happens in any class as we all love our professor, Mr . Satheesh Krishnamurthy. Enough of all the talk about how irresponsible and arrogant we are.

This post is about each and every person in my class. its going to be quite a lengthy one and split it into smaller ones since we have about 45 in class, so please excusez-moi !! :), but I’ll make sure you’ll enjoy reading every minute of it!!!

Very important note: I am not being bias with anybody. This is my perception about you.

 

Roll No:1 Mohamed Arif – We call him “Call rep” ,  “Mechanic”, “Computer operator”, etc… RF is a very sweet and funny guy!! always there when you need him. He has a Dubba (useless) Yamaha bike. Takes all the college magazines and puts it in the old paper shop and takes the money. Actually these magazines are meant for us to read but we don’t so as well make money out of it.  RF is like the best commentator in class. We comment lots of stuff when the class are going on. RF is one in a million and “US Goner”( a term coined by Ram Prasad, who will come in the later part of these posts) meaning a person going to US. Glad to have known you !!

Roll No:2 Arun Chakaravathy- The King of masses. The cute, chubby and very friendly Arun. Where to start?? One of the first few friends who stand by me every time. He is a man of the problems. Arun is very naughty!! Keep giving against statements. Arun is very close to my heart and will always be there. I share a very special kind of friendship with him. We’ve shared a lot and in class, we always sit together. Talk a lot during lectures about jobs, placements, life, love, friendship, family, cooking( well he teaches me that). He is the demo guy. He hates coming to college such a lazy goose and blames others for it which I keep telling not to do. Arun, The bond between us should never break. Hope so.

Roll No:3 Mrs. Priyanka – The married woman in class!! Strict officer. I don’t blame her for being that. I admire her sense of control over the things in her life. She lives with a fellow classmate as the husband is in Australia. She was kinda close to me at the beginning of the college and then things changed. We had a lot difference of opinion and she has a attitude problem. If anyone asks her for help, then she’ll be like “ Do I have to” or “ Why should I help you?”  Some times, things get too annoying when she comment on every presentation which goes on. She is authoritative and like to be the Boss. She is kinda okay something. I like her self- confidence and hate her behaviour and attitude. May be that’s wrong for me!! She is a unique piece, btw. No substitutes there, Priyanka. Good to have met a character like you in my life.

Roll No:4 This guy left my class. I don’t even remember the name… There are certain specimens like that. 🙂

Roll No:5 Shankar – Shanki is a very sincere and loyal person. This does not include the main purpose of joining this college- Academics. Shankar stays in a house with a few guys from the same class. They always come in and go out as a gang. Shankar loves his girl and he is constantly on the phone with her. He is such a jolly good fellow.. And likes this girl called Shivangi in class. ( hope that poom doesn’t know about it ). He is a sweetheart and lacks the confidence !! I think he is a very able and capable person who will do great things in the future, only if he concentrates on them. Shankar hats off to you. Thanks for being my friend.

Roll No:6 Dhilip Kumar- This guy is looks small but is intellectually capable of lot of things. He knows when and what to do. He joined in the second year as he came from other section as we where shifted. Kinda like this padips in class( geek), sweet, innocent, talks a lot.  He is ready to help anybody.  Dhilip is cool and gives all this work on time. Never misses out to have fun along with my class. Its great to know you.

To be continued….

>Two Things….

>Very important two things I miss now a days…

1. My sister who left for higher education and I’m unable to get out of the thoughts how she cries every time we talk to her… She is so innocent, all these days wrapped in the arms of my father and suddenly let out free to live on her own. It will take her quiet some time to settle down.

2. My blog- I hardly blog these.. I read all the other posts of my fellow blogger but just unable to write what I have in my mind. I have so many things to talk about yet I am unable to get words. Maybe its because of reason 1 or may be??  Then I thought, was I being lazy?? I am never lazy when it comes to blogging.. This is something that I do whole heartedly and love every second of it.. So it must be reason 1. So gimme sometime.. I’m yet to figure out to put words on the posts. I’ll make sure to come out with a bang

>A few Tags….

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TAG 1 : Brands Tag

(tagged by Shankar and Sreya)

The brands which I use everyday.. Once when I was in the first year of my college I got this message from a friend of mine who sent me a list of brands which are Indian and asked me to use them as much as possible. He explained that this would increase the revenue to India. So I try to do it as much as possible.. But since this globalization everything changes..

“Dell Vostro Laptop”: This was given to me by my college for my MBA education. I cannot live without it now even for single day.  dell-vostro-1510

“Motorola Rockr z6”: My mobile phone which is 3 years old but still going strong and I love it for the music.

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“IIPM”: Being a student, I love the brand value of it yet some things are just not right…

 

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“Aircel”: The only mobile phone service provider I’ve used for more than 6 years.Aircel-Logo

“Titan Raga” – My Executive watch 

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“Fastrack”- My funky Collection

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“Google” – My favourite Search Engine.   

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“Colgate” – Only toothpaste I’ve used all my life.

 

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“Dove” – My soap, shampoo and conditioner.

 

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“ Blogger”- My favourite portal for blogging!!

 

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“GRT” – The only jeweler, my mom prefers.

 

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“Jang”- Bags

 

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“Arun Ice Creams”- Always

 

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“Satyam Cinemas”- For movies and fun

 

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TAG 2:

RULE 1– You can only say Guilty or Innocent.
RULE 2– You are not allowed to explain anything unless someone messages you and asks!
RULE 3– Copy and paste this into your notes , delete my answers, type in your answers and tag to your friends to answer this.
So here I goes the answers( Truthful about the answers) : 
Asked someone to marry you? Guilty
Ever kissed someone of the same sex? Innocent
Danced on a table in a bar? Innocent
Ever told a lie? Guilty.
Had feelings for someone whom you can’t have back? Guilty.
Kissed a picture? Guilty.
Slept in until 5 PM? Guilty
Fallen asleep at work/school? Guilty
Held a snake? Innocent.
Been suspended from school? Innocent.
Worked at a fast food restaurant? Innocent.
Stolen from a store? Innocent
Been fired from a job? Innocent.
Done something you regret? Guilty.

Laughed until something you were drinking came out your nose? Guilty.
Caught a snowflake on your tongue? Innocent.
Kissed in the rain? Guilty.
Sat on a roof top? Guilty.
Kissed someone you shouldn’t? Guilty.
Sang in the shower? Guilty.
Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on? Innocent.
Shaved your head? Innocent.
Had a boxing membership? Innocent.
Made a boyfriend cry? Guilty.
Been in a band? Innocent.
Shot a gun? Innocent.
Donated Blood? Guilty.
Eaten alligator meat? Innocent.
Eaten cheesecake? Guilty.
Still love someone you shouldn’t? Guilty.
Have/had a tattoo? Innocent.
Liked someone, but will never tell who? Guilty.
Been too honest? Guilty.
Ruined a surprise? Innocent.
Ate in a restaurant and got really bloated that you couldn’t walk afterwards? Guilty.
Erased someone in your friends list? Guilty.
Dressed in a woman’s clothes (if you’re a guy) or man’s clothes (if you’re a girl)? Guilty.
Joined a pageant? Innocent.
Been told that you’re handsome or beautiful by someone who totally meant what they said?Guilty.
Had communication with your ex? Guilty.
Got totally drunk on the night before exam? Innocent.
Got totally angry that you cried so hard? Guilty.

TAG3 : How DUMB are you?

The more [x]’ s the “dumber” you are.


[x] Gum has fallen out of your mouth when you were talking
[  ] Gum has fallen out of your mouth when you were NOT talking
[x] You have ran into a glass/screen door
[ ] You have jumped out of a moving vehicle
[ ] You have thought of something funny while walking by yourself
[ ] Laughed, then watched people give you weird looks

So far: 2

[  ] You have run into a tree/bush.
[  ] You know that it IS possible to lick your elbow
[  ] You have tried to lick your elbow… a few times
[x] You never knew that the Alphabet and Twinkle Twinkle little star have the same rhythm.
[  ] You just tried to sing them.

So far: 3
[x] You have tripped on your shoelace and fallen.
[ ] You have choked on your own spit .
[ ] You have seen the Matrix and still don’t get it.
[ ] You’ve never seen the Matrix.
[ ] You type only with two fingers.

So far: 4

[ ] You have accidentally caught something on fire
[x] You tried to drink out of a straw, but it went into your nose/eyes.
[ ] You have caught yourself drooling.
[ ] You have fallen asleep in class and fell outta your chair

So far: 5
[x] Sometimes you just stop thinking
[x] You are telling a story and forget what you were talking about
[ ] People often shake their heads and walk away from you
[ ] You are often told to use your “inside voice”.
[x] You use your fingers to do simple math

So far: 8

[ ] You have eaten a bug
[x] You are taking this test when you should be doing something more important
[ ] You have put your clothes on backwards or inside out, and didn’t realize it
[x] You’ve looked all over for something and realized it was in your hand
[ ] You have ran around naked in your house.

So far: 11
[ ] You repost bulletins because you are scared that what they say will happen to you if you don’t.
[x] You break a lot of things.
[ ] Your friends know not to use big words around you.
[ ] You tilt your head when you’re confused
[ ] You have fallen out of your chair before

So far: 12

[ ] When you’re lying in bed, you try to find pictures in the texture of the ceiling or wall
[ ] The word “ummmmm” is used many times a day.

TOTAL: 12

I am (12/37)*100 = 32.4% DUMB 🙂 (Thank God!!!)

TAG 4 : Questions

RULES: Respond and rework – answer these questions on your blog, replace one question that you dislike with a question of your own, and add one more question to the list. Then tag eight or ten other new set of people.

1. What is your current obsession? Blogging
2. What are you wearing today?
Salwar
3. What’s for dinner?
I wish it was chicken curry

4. What’s the last thing you bought?
Chocolates

5. What are you listening to right now?
Cricket Comments from my dad.

6. What do you think about the person who tagged you?
Sreya, is a very sweet and heartwarming intelligent person.
7. If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished anywhere in the world, where would you like it to be?
Chennai

8. What are your must-have pieces for summer?
What pieces??
9. If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go? To my sister who is crying her wits out for being alone
10. Which language do you want to learn? Hindi
11. What’s your favourite quote? Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. -Winston Churchill

12. Who do you want to meet right now? My sister
13. What is your favourite colour?
Yellow
14. What is your favourite piece of clothing in your own closet?
My black kurta
15. What is your dream job?
Women Entrepreneur
16. What’s your favourite magazine?
17. If you had $100 now, what would you spend it on?
Buy myself a domain and start my own website…

18. What do you consider a fashion faux pas?
No Clue


19. Who according to you is the most over-rated style icon?
Hmmm…
20. What kind of haircut do you prefer?
Steps…


21. What are you going to do after this?
Email my sister

22. Who is your favourite sport star?
Sachin Tendulkar


23. What are three cosmetic/makeup/perfume products that you can’t live without?
Mascara, eyeliner and lip balm.
24. What inspires you?
Life, nature, purity and Kalam
25. Give us three styling tips that always work for you:
Be yourself and smile a lot…


26. What do you do when you “have nothing to wear” (even though your closet’s packed)?
Kurta and jeans.


27. Coffee or tea?
Coffee.

28. What do you do when you are feeling low or terribly depressed?
Blog
29. What is the meaning of your name?
Goddess of lakshmi. (I guess)

30. Which other blogs do you love visiting?
The ones I follow.
31. Favorite Dessert/Sweet?
Black forest cake
32. Favorite Season?
Summer and winter… (No bias there)


33. If I come to your house now, what would u cook for me?
I can make some chapattis and panner butter Masala..
34. What is the right way to avoid people who purposefully hurt you
? Don’t give a damn about them… They are just not worth it.
35. What are you afraid of the most? Losing friends

36. What do you love most about yourself?

I am very confident and always try to keep my cool, no matter what. I accept mistakes and learn from them.


Awww… That was done.. Had it kept in my folder for such a long time.. Thank you sreya and Shankar for tagging me.. Okay so my turn to tag.

I tag Raji, Anand, Shruti, Soin, Vishnu and others who would love to do this long tag list…

>The Dream of a Dog

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This is a story given written by my friend Sriram.. This is for you to read… Please give me your comments on it.
Mr. Chris Wardwell a famous doctor -My boss
     He is well known by all. I too know about him a little more. It’s  really hard for anyone to cope up with people having different mindsets. But, my boss does the job very easily.
       He is adorable. Being a doctor, he did many things to his profession and at the same time he kept one of his eyes on me. I will be sitting near a big clock, which occupies half part in his bedroom.
       He got that clock from Elizabeth Sansow as a token of love.
My eyes will be waiting for the “Big rod” in the clock to stand straight and the “Small rod” to retain three steps behind from the “Big rod” (9.00pm)
       And it’s time for him to fondle me and it will make my tail to move ‘to and fro’ He goes for sleep if the ‘small rod’ in the clock moves to the next place.
       So, my qualm hates the clock because it limits his time with me. I want him for the whole day.
(25.10.2006) Two incident made this day unforgettable.
First Incident:
        My Boss birthday…….Outside garden is filled with cars and my eyes also found colourful pairs of foot wears and thus it made me to conclude it as a grand function. I decided to sing a birthday song for him so, I was murmuring.
                             “Hoo..Hoo…. Hooooooo”
        I was too busy in that party. My tongue tasted delicious foods. I felt very tired and my bed invited me for a snooze. The speed of my walk became slow and I just crawled.
Second Incident:-
       I slowly got into dream. It was a surprise dream. I dreamt myself becoming a (8 years old boy) with strange habits.
Usually, it’s natural to fumble while choosing the best among alternative. But, I am exception to this.
      I would not struggle and I will simply do that with the help of single coin.
      Yes…  I use to toss the coin to choose the alternative but I will do the opposite effect.
                 ‘Craig’ a lady called.
      Then, I recognized that’s me and that lady my mom “Yancy”. Later I came to know about two more pillars which hangs my family..
      One is the head of the family my papu. “David Krintzman” and other is my loving sister “Laura”.
     One day I was not doing my homework….If I go to school I will be getting punishment from my teacher.
      No problem, if I remain in home.
There were two alternatives
     So for the first time, I made use of the coin….I was ready to toss. I closed my eyes and I assigned the alternatives in the coin.
       “If it is head i should go to school and if it is tail I can remain in home”.
Then I threw the coin.
         Fortunately, it was tail, I stayed in home and I did the opposite effect.(i.e) I asked my mom to punish me. At evening, I met my dudes and they called me for play. But, mom suggested me to do the pending home works. Once again they made me to use the coin.
                       ‘Coin favoured play’
          As usual, I did the opposite effect. I went to playground but, I did homework by sitting on the green floor.
Years went fast.
           I got my degree and also call for interview from a big concern. I appeared for the interview. There were two persons sitting before me. At first, I introduced myself and I showed my certificates. Then, they gave me a riddle; I successfully finished that with the help of a coin and got placement with decent salary package.
           I thought my habit of tossing the coin helped me. I did many things with the help of coin. Many friends and relatives tried their level best to stop me doing this habit.. But, they failed. I didn’t listen to them.
          I got good colleagues. We had small chats during the free time. One of my colleagues is ‘Maya’. I love her very much. One day I decided to disclose everything to her and at the same time i was a little bit worried about the result. There happened a big battle between my heart and mind. Whether to propose by myself or through the M.D’s daughter ‘Julie’ who is a common friend for both of us. My mind threatened me about the result and also suggested me to move with the help of ‘Julie’. But, my heart opposed this. I sought the help of the coin.
                       “ Heart won the toss”
          I went to ‘Maya’ and said I am in love with the M.D’s daughter ‘Julie’. This spread like a fire and my M.D punished me. Due to this, I lost love, friendship, job and also my hope. I absconded from that place and made myself alone. I became pauper.
          I felt, the doors of the ‘Heaven’ were waiting for me. I decided not to live.
         Again there was an alternative one is to commit suicide by drinking poison and the other is to share everything with ‘Laura- my sister’.
                 “Coin went high in the air
         As per the suggestion given by the coin, I saw my sister. That was a blunder. Instead of sharing my sorrow, I gave poison to my sister. My parents thought she committed suicide but I know the truth and I was depressed. So, my parents confined me in to the bed in the form of treatment.
                       Then, migration took place.
         I went to many places for treatment. I didn’t recover from the tragedy. This incident made me feel guilty. I decided to put an end for this. So I have been thinking about my habit for days.
I took the coin and threw it for the purpose of toss, whether to have this habit of not.
Coin rotated frequently and few feet to know the result.
          ‘Marcus’ (dog name) a voice interrupted.
        I woke up. Sweating from the face of my boss made me to realise that, it was time for his ‘morning walk’ and I realised all that was just a dream but still I couldn’t recover from the dream and the myth…He provided ‘two’ flavours of pedigree for my breakfast.

     “I rushed towards his bedroom in search of coin.”



By
Sriram Senthamizhan